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My dress. Oh man. It fit great when I bought it over a year ago, when I was about 10 pounds lighter. When I tried it on again a few months ago, my body fit inside, but I wouldn’t it say it was as flattering as it could be.

This was when I first bought the dress:

And this was a few months ago:

You can see my tummy, butt and hips have grown. (You can also see my black underwear. Oops.) I entered a weight loss competition at work a month ago, but so far I’m only down a couple pounds. Mostly because I’m not trying very hard at all. I like the way I look, and losing weight to fit into a dress is not good motivation for me apparently.

So last night I tried on the dress with (what I intellectually call) a sucky-inny thing to pull in my belly, and a long slip to smooth out my hips (and hide my underwear). Unfortunately I only took pictures on my phone, so I can’t share the results, but it seems to have improved things a little. I think as long as I don’t gain any weight, I’ll at least know that this is a good enough option. Having it altered is a last resort because I think it’ll be difficult to take this material out and maintain the integrity of the dress. Plus I don’t want to spend money on it.


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My friend Lindsay suggested that we break down the wedding traditions we’ve been detailing in our Wedding Traditions Explained series from our own point of view. We thought it was a good idea, too. So here it is:

Tossing the bouquet and garter
We will not be doing either. In fact, we won’t even be having a bouquet or garter. I might carry something down the aisle, but it will likely not be flowers. So no tossing.

Including bridesmaids and groomsmen
We’re not having either. We decided it was unnecessary and it would save us some time, stress and money to forgo a wedding party altogether.

Giving away the bride
For awhile I thought if anyone was going to walk me down the aisle, it would be both of my parents, not just my dad. But then I decided the whole escorting down the aisle thing was silly. At least for me. Mike and I will be walking in solo and leaving together. Symbolic eh?

Bridal veil
Skipping it. I’ll wear the pretty lace hair adornment that my friend Katie bought me, and that’s it.

Wedding rings
We will have wedding rings. I like the symbolism here. We both had engagement rings, and we’ll both have wedding bands. And we both split the cost on all four.

No final decisions, but I don’t think there will be flowers. Other decorations, yes. Flowers, probably not. No real reason, except we want our decorations to be fun, simple and sort of whimsical, and other ideas seem to work better than flowers.

Bride on groom’s left
We’re not sure yet what we’re doing with placement. We’re not having “sides” because my family is so much bigger than his, so we just want people to sit wherever. I think which side we stand on will depend on what looks and feels right. When we were in the backyard once, getting an idea of how things would be, it seemed like one side was sloped a little more than the other. Being 15 inches shorter than Mike, it makes sense for me to not stand downhill from him.

Wedding cake
No cake. But we will have an ice cream bar and a cupcake bar! Aw yeah.

Something Old…
I will have something old (dress, shoes), and something new (hair piece, rings), and something borrowed (earrings), and maybe even something blue by then, who knows. But none of it is to fulfill the ‘requirements’ of this old saying.

The “wedding”
Yes we’re having a wedding, but there is no purchasing of brides or whatever.

White dress
Nope. It’s green and ivory.

First kiss
Yes we will be having a first kiss. Except we’re trying to think of a good alternative to “you may kiss the bride.” Maybe something like, “You may now take your first kiss as a married couple.” Or something. Thoughts?

Carrying the bride across threshold
Um no. There will be no carrying of the bride over anything.

The honeymoon
Yes yes yes! We’re on a serious budget for the wedding so that we can have enough money for a honeymoon. Nothing fancy though. We’re thinking maybe a short cruise or something. But we definitely want to get away after the wedding.

Bridal shower and bachelor party
Rather than a shower for the women only (god I hate that!), we’re going to host a family meet n’ greet slash shower. Basically we want our families to meet before the wedding, so we’re going to host our own big get-together, and instead of having separate showers, the meet n’ greet can second as one. Then I guess it will be up to our friends if there are any other showers or bachelor(ette) parties. No expectations there.

Wedding march
This relates to our aisle walk above. No wedding march. And as we explained awhile ago, there will be no music either.

Taking hands during the ceremony
I’m sure we’ll hold hands at some point. Right hand to right hand though? That seems a lot like a handshake…

We haven’t given this much thought actually. Maybe? But our reception is going to be more like a casual backyard party, and formal toasts might seem awkward. Or not. I’m not really sure. I have a feeling unless someone speaks up strongly about wanting to do a toast, we’ll probably skip this tradition.

Throwing rice
Definitely not. We won’t be departing in any big fashion, and in fact we’ll probably be staying later than most of the guests in order to clean up. So rice throwing or bubbles or sparklers… pretty obsolete.

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One night last month I was g-chatting with my friend Katie, and we eventually started searching for shoes I could wear to the wedding. With her help, I soon landed on a gorgeous pair of ivory 1950s boudoir slippers on etsy. With shipping they were only fifty cents over what I had budgeted for shoes ($40)! They got here a few weeks ago, and they fit perfectly. I haven’t tried them on with my dress yet, but I’ve held them next to it, and I think they’ll be great.

(I didn’t realize until I almost published this photo that my legs hadn’t been shaved in far too long. So that’s my quick Picnik fix to save you from the horror.)

Here’s a pic from the seller.

Do you like?

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Wedding traditions are traditions for a reason: they’ve been around a long time. But where did they originate? Our Wedding Traditions Explained series attempts to find out. We have no real evidence to back up these claims, but they were gathered from various online sources. Take them for what they’re worth, and if you’ve heard differing explanations, please share.

The White Dress

In biblical times, brides wore blue dresses as blue represented purity. Later, women usually just wore their best dress, not often white. In China and Japan, brides have traditionally always worn white,  the color of  mourning. The bride is leaving her family of birth to join that of her husband’s, thereby undergoing a symbolic death.

The first known white wedding dress was worn in 1499 by Anne of Brittany, for her marriage to Louis XII of France. By the late eighteenth century, white had become the standard wedding color. It is thought to symbolize purity and virginity.

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Wedding traditions are traditions for a reason: they’ve been around a long time. But where did they originate? Our Wedding Traditions Explained series attempts to find out. We have no real evidence to back up these claims, but they were gathered from various online sources. Take them for what they’re worth, and if you’ve heard differing explanations, please share.

Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and a Sixpence in Your Shoe

Although the last line is usually left off today, this one is pretty straight forward. It dates back to Victorian times and many brides try to arrange their wedding attire accordingly.

“Something old” represents the bride’s link to her family and the past. The bride may choose to wear a piece of family jewelry or her mother or grandmother’s wedding gown.

“Something new” represents hope for good fortune and success in the future. The bride often chooses the wedding gown to represent the new item.

“Something borrowed” usually comes from a happily married woman and is thought to lend some of her good fortune and joy to the new bride.

“Something blue” is a symbol of love, fidelity and purity of the bride.

“A sixpence in her shoe” is to wish the bride wealth in her future life.

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Wedding traditions are traditions for a reason: they’ve been around a long time. But where did they originate? Our Wedding Traditions Explained series attempts to find out. We have no real evidence to back up these claims, but they were gathered from various online sources. Take them for what they’re worth, and if you’ve heard differing explanations, please share.

The Bridal Veil

Overall, this seems to have represented purity, virginity, submission and/or modesty. There are several variations on the origin:

– The bride stood beneath a canopy to signify she was under the protection of her groom. It wasn’t white, as is the custom today, but was yellow in ancient Greece and red in ancient Rome.

– Related to the days when the groom would throw a blanket over the head of the woman of choice when he captured and carted her off.

– The veil is related to the arranged marriages when the bride’s face was covered until the groom was committed to the bride at the ceremony, so it would be too late for him to escape if he did not like the looks of his bride.

– It is also related to protect the bride from evil spirits that would be floating around on her wedding day.

– A woman’s face covered by a veil meant that she was spoken for. Unmarried women wore veils throughout life as a sign of modesty and by married women as a sign of submissiveness to their husbands.

– The lifting of the veil at the end of the ceremony symbolizes male dominance.  If the bride takes the initiative in lifting it, thereby presenting herself to him, she is showing more independence.

– Veils came into vogue in the United States when Nelly Curtis wore a veil at her wedding to George Washington’s aid, Major Lawrence Lewis.  Major Lewis saw his bride to be standing behind a filmy curtain and commented to her how beautiful she appeared.  She then decided to veil herself for their ceremony.

Much of this symbolism is gone today, but veils are still often worn by American brides.

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Even though I already have my dress, I thought it would be fun to have the bridal shop experience. Since my sister Emily is getting married a month after me, we decided to go together. Cute right? Two sisters getting married a month apart trying on wedding dresses together? It was a blast. The saleswomen were so nice and helpful, we almost felt bad for duping them. But I figure brides go to several dress shops and obviously don’t buy from all of them, so it’s ok that we knew we weren’t going to be giving them our business.

Here’s the thing though. I hate wedding dresses. I realize this now. Hate them. Everything I tried on was huge and ridiculous. I kept saying “I just really don’t want a full skirt or a long train,” and finally one of the ladies told me, quite honestly, “Pretty much anything you find here is going to have a full skirt and long train. That’s how they’re made.” I can’t believe the American wedding dress is so standard and, I’m sorry, but so ugly. A big poofy white dress? Ugh. Not me at all.

So even though we had a lot of fun, I was not even kind of tempted to change my mind about the dress I already bought.

On the other hand, Em looked amazing in everything she tried on. Even though I don’t love the typical wedding dress, she looked stunning.

Eventually they did manage to find me one dress (ONE!) that didn’t have a full skirt or long train, and I actually sort of liked it. But not nearly as much as I love mine, and good thing because it was $400. Which, by the way, is cheap compared to everything else we saw. Gross, this whole dress industry disgusts me.

(I wasn’t thinking when I put on my black giraffe-print bra that morning…)

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